Met some friends for drinks this evening. They're husband and wife and both are on their 2nd marriages.
Wife asked me how things were going with my husband as she is well aware of what my husband is like and how bad my marriage has been.
I told her nothing has changed, it's gotten worse.
Now wife had one too many glasses of wine by this time, so she looks me dead in the eye and said, "Do not feel guilty about leaving. You know you have been staying in this marriage for the last 4 years out of guilt. If you continue, then shame on you."
I was like....what?????????????
What do you mean "Shame on Me"?
She proceeds to tell me that maybe I am denying my husband a chance of finding his true love in addition to denying myself of finding my true love.
When she said that, I couldn't look at her.
She read me like a book -- "You found him, didn't you?"
"Found what", I replied.
Next thing I heard was her saying "Bitch!"
Her husband interrupted her calmly and said, "It's time to move on. Even if he doesn't want to go, you need to walk away."
Easier said than done.
It took her well over 8 years to file her divorce and it took him 4 years before filing his divorce. But to them they both said that they wish they had taken action sooner. They don't want to see me make the same mistake.
When I got home, my husband was already asleep. I sat in my chair and watched him sleep -- my husband is happy being married to me and he tells me he loves me all the time. He hasn't noticed that I haven't told him that I loved him back in many years.
Maybe he has noticed but as long as I'm still here he doesn't care.
Is it really shame on me if I stay and keep him happy?
Or is it shame on me for letting my knight in shinning armor go and losing my bid for true love?
This whole situation is a shame for me.....
